I remember being one of only two Asian kids in an elementary school of about 200 students in a small town in Central America. My brother is another Asian kid. Another Vietnamese student, Thien*, ended up joining my class. Thien struggled to fit in at school and struggled to communicate in English. He struggled academically and had trouble making friends. My teachers urged me to help him because they didn’t know what to do (Hua, 2019). They thought if I socialized with him, helped him study, built a friendship with him, he would get better. Unfortunately, while my efforts started off well, it only got worse. I think Thien feels the same way about me because I hate him. Looking back, I realize how unfair it was to both of us. Thien, an immigrant child, faced racial discrimination from his peers as he struggled with English at a school that lacked resources to help him. I had to change my schedule to support Thien as his mentor and supporter in a way the school couldn’t. I am a Vietnamese American student. Looking back now, I find that I never felt bad about my school, my principal, or my professors for putting me in this situation. I just hold a grudge against Thien. To them, the agreement between Thien and me represented a novel win-win approach to a specific “problem”. read more…